When it comes to the best sex toys for men, the first step is getting past whatever’s kept you from using a male sex toy—alone or with a partner—up until now: a mildly Puritan shame about masturbation, the hassle of cleaning up, the fact that the best sex toys for men kinda look like alien appendages.
Or maybe it’s the misguided notion that “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Following the Malcolm Gladwellian 10,000-hour theory, you feel like an expert in the field. Who needs silicone when you’ve got your hands? A harder, stronger, and more life-affirming orgasm sounds nice, but how much room for improvement from a prostate massager or a male masturbator could there really be?
A lot. The best men’s sex toys do for masturbation what hot sauce does for a couple of perfectly over-medium eggs—take a great thing to whole new heights. Adult toys do things you and your partner can’t, no matter how advanced your yogic practices. And unless you’re Sting, you can’t make your penis vibrate on its own. You’re also going to struggle—by virtue of the limitations of the human anatomy—to stimulate your own prostate, a.k.a. the male G-spot, while simultaneously working the front. That’s where vibrators, prostate massagers, and butt plugs come in.
But we’re jumping ahead. Even if you’re not ready to explore self-guided butt stuff, plenty of sex toys will kick-start your masturbation game from good to great to apologizing-to-the-neighbors. Some of these toys are also great to use with a partner. Or not! The next time you could use a little self-love, give your hands a break and your body a whole new silicone sensation. (Maybe throw one in your Amazon cart the next time you need paper towels.) It’s time to get fresh, and maybe a little weird, with your self-sex. Here are the best sex toys for men out there.
Best Male Masturbator: Fleshlight Quickshot
While you’re likely aware of the infamous Fleshlight, the first and most well-known male masturbator, you might not know that the manufacturers came out with what they call the Quickshot. It’s smaller than the original, with only 3.5 inches to insert your penis, meaning it (likely) won’t cover the entire shaft. But the perks are that it’s easy to store discreetly, and doesn’t look like a typical Fleshlight, which isn’t necessarily something you want a casual hookup to stumble on.
The Best Lube: Uberlube
While lube might not strictly be considered a sex toy, it certainly makes sex a lot better, like all the best sex toys do! This silicone-based one lasts and lasts, so things will stay slippery whether you’re touching yourself or a partner. The packaging looks luxe on your nightstand too. Note that this one is not safe to use on silicone toys.
Best Lube for Silicone Toys: Sutil Luxe Body Glide
Water-based lubes don’t last as long as silicone ones, but unlike silicone, they can be used with any kind of sex toy, so they’re good to have around. This one is thick, slick, and pairs perfectly with your favorite stroker or butt plug.
Best Vibrating Masturbator: Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo
This incredibly rumbly vibrator is designed to wrap around your shaft and stimulate your sensitive frenulum, whether you’re stroking it up and down or just holding it on your sweet spot. Unlike most penis toys, this one works well even when you’re not fully hard yet.
Best Prostate Massager: Lelo HUGO
While the LELO Hugo is pricey, it’s our favorite prostate massager currently on the market. You tilt the remote to control the strength and location of the vibrations. So if you tilt it to the left, the vibrations will be stronger on the left side. With the Hugo, you can pinpoint exactly where in your behind you experience the most pleasure and focus on those spots.
Best Anal Beads: CalExotics Silicone Booty Beads
These anal beads hold their shape better than a standard set, so they’re easy to guide into your butt even if you’ve never tried beads before. That “popping” sensation as each bead moves in and out of you can make orgasms surprisingly intense!
Best Cock Ring: Lelo Tor 2
The LELO Tor does its job simply, and it does its job well. The vibrations are strong. It fits snuggly against the shaft of your penis, but it’s not too tight. The more bulbous top of the toy applies pressure and stimulates your partner’s clitoris. It feels good for you and everyone involved. Pro tip: If you finish first and your partner hasn’t, take the Tor and place it on your middle and ring fingers while you finger her. She’ll likely appreciate the vibrations.
Best Powerful Cock Ring
This vibrating cock ring works just as well as the Lelo, but operates with a slightly lower frequency rumble. Can’t hurt to have options—it’s like you’re some kind of orgasm sommelier!
Best Affordable Masturbation Toy: Tenga Egg
Is the Tenga Egg masturbator going to change your sex life? No. Will you use it to masturbate every single time? Absolutely not. But for less than seven dollars a egg, this super-stretchable elastomer sleeve can become one of many tools in your jerk box to switch things up when the old-fashion way starts growing stale.
The Highest-Tech Masturbation Toy: Lelo F1s V2
More fun with solo sex? There’s an app for that. Lelo’s new F1S V2 is the Maybach of masturbation toys: it’s incredibly powerful, extra soft and stretchy on the inside, and has ten sensors allowing for feedback, and the the whole experience is totally customizable through the Lelo app on your phone.
Best-Looking Stroking Toy: Tenga Crysta
Tenga’s Crysta is super-smooth reusable male masturabator that looks like an alien artifact. It uses floating textures for pleasure and unique sensation on impact. One you’ve done your thing, the Crysta is easy to clean and comes with a stand to aid in fully air drying between uses.
A Great Non-vibrating Masturbation Sleeve: TENGA Zero Flip
When you open the TENGA flip, it looks like the insides of an alien, but that’s what makes it feel so good. There are various ridges and grooves inside the masturbation sleeve, which allow for different sensations. Few other masturbation sleeves are built like this. Most Fleshlights, for example, are simply smooth inside.
Best Rimming S(t)imulator: b-Vibe Rimming Plug 2
The b-Vibe is the only butt plug on the market that simulates rimming or “analingus” using rotating beads. While it doesn’t feel as pleasurable as a partner’s tongue, it still feels pretty damn good, and doesn’t require you to ferociously clean out beforehand. It’s also a simple entry for men who want to explore anal play, but aren’t quite ready to shove a dildo in there yet.
Best Inexpensive Prostate Massager: Aneros Helix Prostate Stimulator
Slightly smaller and roughly $100 cheaper than the LELO, the Helix Prostate Stimulator is a good choice for beginners. Start with this, get to know yourself, and when you’re ready for an upgrade, get something that rumbles.
The Best Long-Distance Stroker: Lovense Max 2
Long-distance relationships make it challenging to maintain your sexual connection, but this Bluetooth-enabled stroker can help. Give your partner control via Lovense’s app, and they can tease and please you with variable vibrations and suction settings from afar.
The Best Sex Toy Novelty: Balldo
Feeling adventurous? The Balldo is an apparatus that you slip over your balls so that you can – wait for it—penetrate a partner with them. Ever wondered if you could experience a “ballgasm”? There’s only one way to find out…
Another Great Penis Vibrator: Fun Factory Manta
The ridges on this penis-focused vibrator are super-stimulating, so this toy feels fantastic whether you’re stroking it over your frenulum solo or having a partner use it as a blowjob accessory.
Best Automatic Blowjob Machine: Autoblow AI
The Autoblow AI is the third generation of the Autoblow, and while it’s not perfect, it’s getting pretty close. While developing the Autoblow, the creators analyzed 109 hours of oral sex videos, so the 10 various blowjob settings don’t simply apply pressure at random. They’re all in the style of a different blowjob technique. The 10th and final setting uses machine-learning technology, so you never get the same blowjob twice.
Best Gift For Her That’s Actually For You: Le Wand Loop
If you don’t mind sharing a sex toy with your female partner, the Le Wand Silicone Attachment is a lot of fun. Le Wand has been a favorite masturbation toy for women for the past couple of years. This silicone attachment transforms it into a masturbation sleeve. Don’t buy Le Wand just to have the attachment (that would come to a whopping $200). But if you want to buy her a present that seems like a gift for her, but in actuality, is a gift for both of you, then by all means, splurge.
Best Long-Distance Prostate Massager: Lovense Edge 2
Your partner can control this one from anywhere on the planet with an internet connection. Jack into the Matrix!
Best For Full-Body Orgasms: Fun Factory Duke Prostate Massager
The Duke isn’t a prostate massager for beginners. It has three separate components that stimulate various highly-sensitive erogenous zones. The first part extends far past your prostate hitting the deep, inner walls on your anus. The second section directly nuzzles against the prostate, and the third and final section hugs your perineum—aka the taint or grundle—that strip of skin that extends between your anus and base of your testicles. With its powerful vibrations, the Duke can cause sensory overload, but in the best way.
Best Fleshlight: Fleshlight Pink Lady Stamina Training Unit
While people use the terms “Fleshlight” and “masturbation sleeve’” interchangeably, Fleshlight is actually the name of the brand. But of course, Fleshlight creates some of the best masturbation sleeves out there. The idea behind the “Stamina Training Unit” is that it feels so much like an authentic vagina that it will prepare you to last longer when you’re with a real woman. We can take or leave that dubious marketing angle but, in our tests, this is the best Fleshlight.
Best Perineum Toy: Dame Products Pom
The perineum is a super-underrated erogenous zone. (This is the patch of skin between the anus and the ballsack—the taint, if you have to.) It should definitely not be ignored. If you’re looking for something to up your orgasm game, but aren’t quite ready for butthole action just yet, the pernieum is the place to start. The Pom from Dame products is perfectly contoured for the vulva—and happens to be equally perfect for the perineum. Try having your partner use it on you during oral or hand-sex and see what a difference it can make.